"My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest." - Isaiah 32:18

Friday, March 24, 2023

Christmas Eve

 "Christmas Eve"


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My table's set

It's almost here,

My family comes to me

This time each year.


They come through snow

From far and wide,

To eat at my table

And be by my side.


I've worked hard

Progress has been made,

So Christmas 2020 

Will not be delayed.


I've pressed the napkins

Washed the sheets on the guest bed,

Light the candles! build a fire!

This is Christmas at the homestead.


Follow the recipes, frost the cookies

Don't forget to make the dressing,

What a joy to show my children

That to host is to be a blessing.


Never does my home

Feel more dignified,

Than within its walls

We are together, starry-eyed.


So, relax! Enjoy!

It's Christmas Eve,

Let's laugh, eat, be merry

And believe! 

🌟🌟🌟


(Christmas Eve 2020)


~ Courtney 


Saturday, March 18, 2023

Tracings

~  "Tracings"  ~


Finger prints on the windows

The smear of a child's wet nose,

Thousands of marks on the stairway

Of clattering heels and toes.


The pirates were coming!

There was a battle at sea,

They were engulfed in danger

And now there's a snag in the upholstery.


Every scuff and scratch

Every woodwork casualty,

Traces back to a playtime

Magnificent! Imaginary.


All they have left behind them 

You may search the whole place through,

And never know the joy and laugher

And games they loved to do.


💙💜💚💗


(Circa 2018)


(Circa 2020)


(Circa 2021)





~ Courtney




Wednesday, March 15, 2023

The Kitchen Table

Inspiration strikes at the most random times. When the floodgates of ideas open, I will frantically search for the nearest scrap of paper or napkin to jot down the poems that invade my mind. As a result, I have multiple pieces of poetry written in various notebooks scattered throughout the house. Time to get organized! Since I started this blog as a record keeping journal for my family, my plan is to gather all my amateur poetry, (probably no more than half a dozen, honestly) and park them here on the blog for safekeeping. One per post is all I have time for, so consider this your warning on what's ahead for the next few posts. FYI, Micah writes poetry, too, and is far better than me! If I get his permission I'd like to include some of his gems, as well.





 "The Kitchen Table"


Around this table 

Dreams are born;

Holidays celebrated

And values formed.


Laundry stands folded

Meals are served;

Prayers are prayed

Criticism reserved.


The Bible is read

Cakes set to cool;

Watercolor's been tried

Books, papers, and school.


Children are growing

Laugher is shared;

Tea time observance

Negativity is spared.


Understanding is practiced

We love as we're able;

May we never outgrow

The Kitchen Table.









(In honor of our sixteenth wedding anniversary coming up next week, this poem was written as a nod to the fact that our kitchen table was a wedding gift from family.)


Thanks for reading,

~ Courtney 



Sunday, March 12, 2023

The Benefits of Snow

 If one were to follow a county road in northern Wisconsin out from the slushy, grey city, and to an old farmstead surrounded by forest and fresh snow, you may find me, small against the backdrop of one-hundred year-old trees, dressed like an eskimo, and breathing in the solitude of a winter moment.



One must first be willing to venture out from the cozy heat, don tall, waterproof boots, then traipse through untouched snow, never knowing if the next step will be a couple inches deep, or a couple feet.

With the onslaught of an active snowfall also comes a reverent silence from nature.

Like a mother placing a blanket on her baby, shushing her to sleep, a heavy snowfall blankets the earth, reminding us that winter is a time for rest.



There was a time in history when people followed the natural rhythms of the seasons. 

The darkness of winter meant quiet evenings by firelight and early bedtimes.

Since the invention of electricity, and the acceptance of it into our homes, we now over-stimulate ourselves with artificial light, tricking our bodies into thinking it's still daytime many hours past dark.

I am thankful it is almost spring, and shifting an hour forward this weekend will return to us our long-awaited evening light. But as I reflect back over this past winter, I can't help but wonder if we push ourselves cruelly when nature intends for us to rest.



I pitched the idea to my family recently that we should consider not taking part in any out of the house evening activities next winter. 

No one jumped at the idea. 

I recommended creating our own cozy family activities that we could enjoy at home instead.

*crickets...

"But what if we tried it for just one winter, like an experiment," I pleaded. 

I'm convinced the benefits would be plentiful!

We would feel calmer and more stable mentally and emotionally.

We would be healthier as a result of getting more sleep and staying out of the germ-filled public.

It would be safer for us, not having to drive through ice and snow in the dark.

Then, after our restorative winter at home, we would be ready to emerge in the spring invigorated and with fresh spirits. 



Nature sets the example for us in this.

Did you know snow holds many benefits for the earth, preparing it for spring?

Some farmers call snow "the poor man's fertilizer."

Snow contains plant-absorbable nitrogen and sulfur, moisturizing the earth.

When winter releases a whole season's worth of snow, the nutrient-rich blanket gently percolates through the soil, watering it completely, so our gardens can emerge invigorated and with fresh spirits.



"For as the rain and snow come down from heaven,

And do not return without watering the earth

Making it bear and sprout,

And furnishing seed to the sower and bread to the eater;

So will My word be which goes forth from My mouth;

It will not return to Me empty,

Without accomplishing what I desire,

And without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it."

Isaiah 55:10-11



There probably aren't very many weeks of winter weather left, but as long as we're living in a snow globe, I will marvel at the creative hand of God and the renewing benefits of snow.


❆  ❄  ❆  ❄  ❆


~ Courtney 


Sunday, February 26, 2023

A Few Thoughts on Homeschooling

 This winter has seemed unusually long, thanks to quite a few illnesses our family has endured lately. As a result, we have found ourselves impatiently awaiting spring.

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(Bookends: my first-born and my baby.)


Add to illness frigid temps and swirling snow and we are prompted regularly to seek the comfort and peace of home sweet home.



Since my long-standing vision for our homeschool has been to prioritize home and family above all else, it is not hard for us to remain content and busy at home for days on end.



A recent visitor to our home asked what made me want to homeschool.

The "on the fly" answer I gave her has been on my mind. I don't often get asked that question much anymore, since I've been homeschooling for so long. It's almost become who I am, in a way.

 Simply put, I wanted to create a family culture where I could impart my values regularly, and talk about the Lord organically, while we "sit in our house, and walk by the way..." (Deuteronomy 6:6-8)

And I wanted to be the one to train their character, to work through their difficulties, and to watch their character flaws in order to correct appropriately. (Proverbs 22:6)

Every school year I've walked in obedience to the Lord in this, and He has blessed our humble efforts.

This year a fresh vision took root in my heart that has been budding...

I wish to impress upon my children a sense of loyalty and ministry to their own family first.

Jesus told his disciples to be witnesses first in Jerusalem, then in Judea and Samaria, and finally, to the ends of the earth. (Acts 1:8)

Our immediate sphere of influence, our own people, should be prioritized first, before branching out to the rest of the world. It's tempting to think of our relationship with our family as unimportant compared to a lost and dying world, but it is not unimportant in God's eyes. 

Your life ministry starts in your family!



On top of this, we have been plodding along with our Abeka curriculum. I've learned to keep lessons bright and brief, and that a little goes a long way.

Academics, for us, isn't rigorous or stressful.

Thanks to Abeka, diagramming prepositional phrases and making equivalent fractions are not taxing, since every lesson leading up to each subsequent year prepares us perfectly.

Staying faithful to a curriculum has been like moving along comfortable stepping stones, taking us on this educational journey one (very doable!) step at a time.



Homeschooling has not been burdensome, it's our way of life. (1 John 5:3) Each day has a flow, a rhythm that feels natural, snug and happy, yet accomplishes so much.

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I want to share three impactful books that have shaped my homeschool:

Charlotte Mason's Home Education taught me how to incorporate nature, nutritious foods, and strong habits into everyday life starting at a young age.

"The mother who take pains to endow her children with good habits secures for herself smooth and easy days."


Booker T. Washington's autobiography Up From Slavery opened my eyes to the realization that with freedom comes great responsibility. Those who wish to break away from the commercial world or public school system to carve out a life for themselves at home should hear Mr. Washington's observations after the Emancipation:

 "The great responsibility of being free, of having charge of themselves, of having to think and plan for themselves and their children, seemed a more serious thing than they had expected to find it."


And lastly, Mother Culture by Karen Andreola helped me not to worry that my humble little homeschool doesn't measure up to what the regular schools are doing. We can trust God to bring fruit from what we can do, and that homestyle learning is unassuming but more than enough.

"A great many hidden saints, unknown to fame and fortune, are plodding along on the path to pleasing God. Not with fanfare, but with quiet dignity."


I wish all homeschool mothers would read these three excellent books. They blessed me, taught me, and helped make my homeschool what it is today.


💐


~ Courtney 



Sunday, January 29, 2023

Oliver's Story

  


   For as long as he can remember, Oliver's life has been spent among the generous pine and oak trees, in the freedom of open fields, and the annoying clutch of a few small country children. These many acres of meadows and forests have been Oliver's home, even though the family that lives in the farmhouse by the road would probably tell you otherwise. You see, the Man of the House has never bothered Oliver with sympathetic words or condescending head pets. Instead, he takes it upon himself, each winter, to outfit the garage with a heated mat for cozy naps, the garden pond with an electric de-icer for unlimited drinks, and the potting shed with a tall bucket of dry cat food for reliable meals. In this way, Oliver's life as a country barn cat has been made as respectable as any.

   With unrestrained freedom, and typical cat-curiosity, Oliver would sometimes travel to neighboring farms for a visit. But he always found his way back to the farmhouse by the road with its exemplary provisions and attentive children. As irksome as children can be to a cat, Oliver displayed tremendous patience with them and bonded with them properly. Even when they would take a brush to his coat to painfully dislodge snarls, Oliver endured the treatment bravely, as if he somehow knew it was for his betterment.

   Although Oliver has no memory of an orientation meeting, and remembers not the signing of any paperwork, it was somehow successfully explained to him from the start that he must earn his keep. His job description was as follows: The garden must be protected from squirrels and bunnies at all times. The farmhouse is to be guarded fiercely from mice. And the Man of the House is to be notified immediately as to the intrusion of raccoons in the shed, and of their audacity to eat his food.

   This was usually accomplished by finding the Man of the House immersed in a project in the workshop, then hopping up upon the workbench to meow relentlessly until he would have no choice but to stop what he was doing and follow Oliver to the shed. A few pops of the BB gun are typically all that are needed to scare the raccoons away so Oliver can comfortably resume his meal.

   One of the many perks of Oliver's job is to accompany the family on their nature walks. As the years passed and Oliver's confidence grew, he figured the family would appreciate his vast expertise on the trails and lay-out of the land. They might get lost without him, and Oliver couldn't take that risk. So he oftentimes would join them on their trek for their own good. They were on his turf, after all.

   Yes, the years did pass. The children grew. But Oliver maintained his loyalty to the family in the farmhouse by the road. Even when other cats came and went, he learned to tolerate their annoying presence. Like Regal, the house cat, for instance, who would sometimes get bored with his pampered life within the oppressive confines of the house, so the family would let him out to explore the backyard.

   At first, Oliver was suspicious of Regal, and would cautiously sniff him, Regal defensively sniffing back. Oliver's conclusions? He was puny and strangely pristine. Ignorant of outdoor life. He had clean, white paws, half the size of Oliver's, and a bright pink nose. Oliver knew he could easily tear Regal to shreds, but no bragging rights would be earned. Such a dense house cat wouldn't be worth it. So he appeased him with a few controlled wrestling matches in the cool grass. Regal giving it his all, of course. But Oliver simply indulging Regal, knowing that he'd soon cry wolf and would be let back into the luxurious house to be coddled like a baby by one of the children. 

   One summer day, as Oliver was resting in a shady spot in the garden while the Mama of the House was quietly pulling weeds nearby, Oliver heard a strange noise. When he looked up a beautiful Calico he had never seen before caught his eye. He had met various female cats at the surrounding farms over the years, but she was new to the neighborhood. Where she came from and who she owned, Oliver never knew. Sometimes cats are forced to find new families, and Oliver understood that. So being the gentleman he was, he showed her to the potting shed where the food dish was faithfully filled each day, and approvingly stood by as the family got acquainted with her. The Mama of the House named her Beatrice, and Oliver liked her.

   Maybe it was a mid-life crisis, maybe it was Beatrice's presence, the family didn't know, but it was observed that summer that Oliver had a spring in his step. He was keeping his long coat cleaner, and his spirits brighter. He had hoped to be accepted by Bea, but she was too entangled with her other suitors to notice poor Oliver. A lady of the night, as he soon learned her to be, as she had two litters of kittens that summer, and would most of the time be off for secret rendezvous. Oliver bore this rejection stoically, and returned to his responsibilities, ashamed he ever fell for her in the first place.

   By now there were new cats to tolerate. The new, immature, unintelligent kittens. Oliver always seemed to possess innate street-smarts when it came to navigating highways. But unfortunately not all cats are blessed with the ability to rise to the challenge of independent country life. Not to mention the kittens were mostly unmonitored by their slack mother, therefore a few were lost to the dangers of the road.

   One kitten stood out among the rest, however. A tiny tan and cream-colored fluff ball the children named Coconut. Bursting with boundless energy, always wanting to play, and constantly getting on Oliver's nerves, Coconut was the new kid on the farm. He seemed to have the family enraptured. They would scold Oliver for hissing at Coconut when in his foolish kitten-judgment he would cross the line, and Oliver was only trying to teach him his place. He felt this was unfair, of course, but still faithfully tended to his duties. His warm bed in the garage and full dish in the shed being his only thank-you's. 

   As autumn descended upon the farm, the family's schedule seemed busier than ever and Oliver rarely saw the children. He knew they were growing up, but missed running wild and free with them down the trails. Coconut, too, was growing up and becoming stronger. Conversely, Oliver was slowing down with age. He sensed winter was coming, and noticed a heated bed was put out for Coconut, as was done for him many years ago.

   One night, Oliver was out hunting in the fields, as he had done countless times before, and always had either the strength to overcome, or the quickness to outrun an enemy. But this time, in an unfortunate encounter, Oliver was in over his head. Confused and surrounded, he succumbed to injuries from a hard fight, and hobbled his way to safety. By the time the confusion cleared, and morning dawned, the deed had been done. His leg was broken. From the family he received extra portions of soft, canned food, much sympathy and attention, and the false hope that given time he would heal up good as new. But as the winter months passed, Oliver continued to favor that leg, never putting any weight on it. It eventually atrophied. 

   Now elderly and in his final years, Oliver knows the farm responsibilities must be handed over to a new generation. Someone young and strong, with a sense of loyalty to the farmhouse by the road. He's got his eye on Coconut. He never seems to wander too far off, and Oliver notices how meaty, fast and tough he's become. Yes, he will do splendidly. But before Oliver feels comfortable to commit the overseeing of the family and the land over to him, there are a few tests Coconut must first pass. 

   Winter melts into spring, as Oliver watches carefully over Coconut. He catches mice and guards the garden. He learns his way around the forests and meadows. He's tolerant of the children, and tolerant of Regal. Oliver is pleased when he observes how Coconut handles his first invasion of raccoons, running up to the door and meowing frantically until the Man of the House comes out with his gun. But the day Oliver was waiting for finally came. The last test. 

   On the first warm day of spring, when everything smelled fresh and the crocuses were poking their nosy little heads out of the newly thawed ground, the Mama of the House along with the children came bounding out the door, taking off for their beloved trails in the sunshine. Oliver can't climb trees or run fast anymore, but managed to position himself on a hill to observe what would happen. Just as the family approached the orchard, Coconut appeared and took off running wild and free with some of the children down the trails. Oliver knew the baton had been passed. 

   Feeling confident in Coconut inheriting his duties, and feeling satisfied with his good, long life, Oliver slowly found his way over to the shade of a tree he grew up climbing, laid his tired body down and breathed his last. He knew his family and his land were in good hands, and so he was comforted as he passed. The family grieved, as they always knew they would when this day arrived. They breathed a word of thanks, as they placed Oliver's body in the ground, for his lifelong loyalty to their family.

   And now, a new generation of squirrel-chasing, mice-catching, land-supervising, children-tolerating, and trail-racing has dawned. The family is older and wiser, yet their hearts are open to loving a new barn cat, and the farmhouse by the road will always need one. Coconut never remembers an orientation meeting, or the signing of any paperwork, yet he instinctively knows he must earn his keep. His home is the fields, the trees and the meadows, even though the family would probably tell you otherwise. He has his warm bed for cozy naps. He also has the silent, comforting company of the Man of the House when he's immersed in a project in the workshop. Coconut knows he can find a place to sit and watch without being bothered by sympathetic words or condescending head pets.

   Yes, Coconut's life as a country barn cat will be as respectable as any.





   Epilogue:  

Although this is based on a true story, and Oliver is elderly, he has not yet passed away. I took some writer's liberty and imagined his ideal passing moment. We are keeping him as loved and as comfortable as we can. 


Thanks for reading Oliver's story,

~ Courtney  

   

   

   

   

   

Tuesday, January 17, 2023

Completing Projects

We are half-way through January already, and I am glad to be in a new year.

Our humble little homeschool is going well.

It certainly feels like the Lord is moving us along and blessing our family.


Having all my children home with me - eating, laughing, chatting, reading, and working through our lessons together, feels like the most luxurious life any mother could have.

Our snowy winter scenes from just a few weeks ago have melted into mild, wet weather, reminiscent more of mid-March than January.

As I stirred raw honey into my tea and glanced outside at a rainy afternoon, I became aware that I am long overdue for a project completion post. Several posts ago I mentioned adding a half bath upstairs, and the paint color the kids selected is called Rainy Afternoon.

We are thrilled to have another bathroom in the house! It has proven quite useful.

 It's tiny, so it's tricky to get a good photo...


(The "before" photos...)


Can you believe this is the same space?

Micah built the bathroom around this small window, and moved some of the cabinets further down the wall.


The biggest headache of this renovation was just clearing the room out! It was an "out of sight, out of mind" junk room for many years.



But once everything was either sold or hauled to the dump, the remainder of the space was turned into an activity room for the kids.




We use the room for art, crafts, and science experiments. The TV is for looking up YouTube tutorials to help us in our creative pursuits. (But I like listening to a "coffee shop jazz" channel while I fiddle with watercolor.)


There are still a few purchases I'd like to make for the room, such as a wall clock and dry erase board for this blank wall.


Even though the activity room and bathroom have technically been complete for several months now, they are already well used and loved, and feel as though they have been with us all along. 




You may remember (many posts ago!) that I was in the process of getting illustrations done for a children's book that I had written.

After a patient process, my illustrator completed the pictures this past fall. I was thrilled, but the binder sat, almost forgotten, in a back corner of my closet until I could find the time to do something with it.
 
I figured I'd get through the holidays first, then find a way to publish my long-awaited book.

But to my complete shock, the gift I had opened Christmas morning, in my living room with my family, contained a printed hardcopy of my book!

(I may or may not have burst into tears, making everyone uncomfortable!)


Roman and Micah had snuck around behind my back, submitted my manuscript and illustrations to a self-publishing website, and printed my book, Big Girl Helper.

It's probably been around 3 or 4 years since the idea for the book hit me like a lightening bolt, and I sat down with a notebook and pencil and wrote the entire manuscript in one sitting by hand.

From that time on I have always fantasized about what it might feel like to hold the finished, printed copy in my hands. I was stunned Christmas morning at the fruition of that dream.

I am grateful to my illustrator for making my little book come to life. The book's beautiful, glossy pages, and colorful pictures perfectly achieved the homey, cheery vibe I was going for.


I am hoping I can find a way to print out more so I can give them away as gifts and possibly even sell them. (Although I realize I will never make any money from this. Haha. But I guess that wasn't really the point.)

After many years of reading countless children's books to my children, I knew the inspiring value and wholesome influence of worthy books on a growing child's mind. Books that represent real, human characters demonstrating attributes like loyalty to home and family. 

If you share those ideals, and have children or grandchildren around the ages of three through five, you may enjoy my book. 

Let me know if you'd like a copy, as one of my New Year's goals is to print more!


Thanks for stopping by my blog today, friends.

I hope to be back in Blogland more often in 2023...


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~ Courtney